WHY KILL PEOPLE WE CLAIM TO LOVE?

The greatest agony of writing is that the things we feel most passionate about often prove to be the most difficult to describe.

The words we like to use also tend to lose value from over use and when you try common sense, you are also deflated by the fact that it also loses its edge for being too common.
Life has taught me that it is not for our faults that we are disliked and even hated but for our qualities, gifts, looks, talents, the list is endless.

Today it pains me a lot to be the one saying we are becoming less of a society if not less than a society. We are becoming less of sober-minded persons and it is a cause for concern.
When we become less of everything that there is, I am afraid we are going to be less until nothing of us is left.

But sad and frightening as it is, let me explain how less we have become.
Our relations or relationships have become loveless. That is the reason why spouses have callously killed each other. That is why alleged lovers butcher each other like enraged tigers.

poison their own children

They literally skin and tear each other apart. That is why some parents heartlessly poison their own children without regard. We have living examples of the year 2019 in Zinhle Maditla, that South African woman who allegedly poisoned her own children to death.

We have seen it locally with Zweli Shongwe, who allegedly brutally killed his wife and went on to poison the children born out of their supposed marriage or relationship.
To me this proves that whatever form of relationship they enjoyed was loveless. There was simply no spark there. One cannot claim or profess to love and then act in this manner. It proves our attitudes have become careless.
We are becoming paupers where feelings, sympathy, empathy and emotions are concerned. We are becoming numb and it is dangerous. When we become numb it means we do not feel any sensations whether painful or pleasant. We are becoming indifferent and it should worry us. When we cannot put ourselves in others’ shoes, it simply means our feelings have become heartless.

When we are heartless, we are slowly but certainly coming to a point and stage where we will be shameless. Shameless people have no regard for anything or anybody.
They literally do not care and I am very sorry to be the one telling this story. But it is evident and unless we do something the countless follies will eventually fold our character and identity as a nation. We need not fold our arms unless we want our lives to be meaningless and hopeless.

I once read somewhere that life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood but not in a hopeless place, where even arguments are baseless. And in those arguments, careless words which kindle strife are aplenty. Yet just one cruel word may wreck a life.
And I am tempted to say our commitment has also become aimless. It is a season and time when we should be living effortless lives with the advent of technology We should be enjoying and revelling in the awe brought by the wireless communication. Life should be easy and interesting and not depressing. Business is amazing as well.

The opportunities may be shrinking depending on which side one is, but the cashless world should be inspiring us. But no. We are seemingly living aimless and worthless lives.
Our cooking is fireless and we should be marvelling at that. Instead, each time we gather to dine after cooking meals in those fireless appliances all we share are tears of the tales that are endless.

We should be directing our efforts at making attempts to create jobs for our jobless youth instead of countless meaningless arguments. It would save us a lot of time and energy. It would give us more time to make our labour effortless and enjoyable. It would enable us to focus and redirect our lives to a religion that is upright and not creedless.

shift our attention

A religion that gives one a sense of belonging and revitalises the waning faith. This would cause us to shift our attention to the education of our children. We would quickly move them from valueless education and turn them to world beaters and not perennial bloopers. This would turn them from being useless, and worthless individuals earning very less to plentiful beings.

I alluded to the fact that it hurts to say something that you feel most passionate about in that opening sentence. But it is even more painful not to have the courage to declare how you feel about a subject.
A friend of mine once said when you love a person, you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance in that relationship and still find that you still care for that particular individual. Those of us who profess to love this beautiful Kingdom of Eswatini should prove it.

They should not tell us how they love this country but they should prove it. The learned say the taste of the pudding is in the eating.
There is no doubt that there is something that has seriously gone wrong in our society. The strides we have taken in terms of technological advancement are being undone by the bad that would not go away from us. But why? I ask.
One of the saddest things in life is meeting someone who means a lot to you only to find it does not work out and you just have to let go. We have also learnt that giving someone all your love and heart is never an assurance that they will love you back. But that is no licence to kill another human being.

Let us stop the idea of living in perceptions but in reality, where we know and appreciate that somethings are just not meant to be.
Let us live and accept not only the precious moments but the painful ones as well. We cannot change fate and the sooner we learn to live with that the better.
I am an avid reader I must confess and in one of the many writings that left an indelible inscription in my heart, I read that life is like an onion, you peel off one layer at a time and sometimes you weep.

Men should be protectors

That says to me the flavour of the onion sometimes wells up tears in our eyes but we do not throw the onions away. Why then do we kill the people we claim to love. Men should be protectors of their women and not their killers. Women are not men’s prey. They are companions and soulmates who should be defended and not attacked.

The men that feel the urge to hurt women should talk to friends before they commit regrettable and indelible mistakes that cost lives. Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly. I mean real friends.
Talking to someone you trust has surprising relief effects that would save us a lot of lives. That is not too much to ask.  

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