THE FERAL NATURE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

THE issue of domestic violence and abuse has (and for a while now) been one of the many societal plagues that have unfortunately managed to latch on to and become somewhat embedded right inside the communal fabric of our nation. I say this with not an ounce of pride in my tone, instead I mention it in a voice that resembles disappointment while in fact, questioning how such grotesque acts continue to grow, in both prominence and incidence.

The official domestic violence statistics send ‘shivers down the spine’ of any concerned citizen as the numbers point ‘right in the face’ of an issue with the sizeable potential to continue ravaging through our communities and homes at a hundred miles an hour.

With the numbers indicating a solid rifeness, it is, therefore, an open secret that domestic violence and abuse lives ‘rent-free’ in our society; something worth a national state of concern.

Of course, this is an issue that heavily touches both males and females, not only does it end there, it soon finds a way of impacting the lives of young, innocent children who suffer the real-time consequences of either parents’ actions.

These consequences often vary in nature, ranging from the visual and auditory trauma borne out of seeing verbal confrontations turn into physical altercations on a regular basis, while concurrently experiencing the emotional stress that comes with living in a household that breeds enough toxicity to poison the psychological well-being of a growing child.

Traumas

As you would expect, these traumas are also shared by the direct victim of the abuse (whether male or female) – regardless of the form it presents as – experiences of any kind of domestic violence or abuse do have the tendency to destabilise an individual in the entirety of their being, especially their mental health.

Quite often, it is a difficult thing to try pin-point exactly why or how a relationship or a household arrives at resorting to violence or the usage of violent acts, however, there are contributing factors that seem to form the common theme in most cases. Issues of infidelity seem to lead the charge in relationships, closely followed by financial stress that tends to cause insecurity to provide amongst breadwinners in families. Childhood traumas and matters of upbringing also play a very key role in determining emotional regulation and anger management abilities in adults; Meaning, exposure to an emotionally volatile household at a young age is most likely to mold an individual into that type of person.

There are plenty of reasons; And even so, none of them are fit enough to justify the gruesome murders and abject acts of (whatever) abuse they may lead to.

The scale of psycho-emotional damage done by perpetrators of this kind of domesticated violence on their victims is hard to put in words. Often times, the victim is placed in a very difficult psychological position by the fact that the perpetrator is usually a figure they either look up or look to for different provisions and normally because of that, it becomes that much harder to seek help. Emotionally also, things get complicated and rather confusing by this ‘scared where you are supposed to be safe’ scenario that the victim find themselves in, thus throwing their mental stability into complete disarray. As mentioned earlier, the damage tends to be a lot more intensely felt by children who are often in the midst of an emotional environment such as that.

As normal as it is to have disagreements, misunderstandings and even confrontations sometimes, for blatant reason, it is always far from a good enough solution to opt to resort to physically, emotionally or sexually violate a partner or a spouse. It would make more sense, however, to seek the mediation of a third (preferably impartial) party to try and assist with some of the grey areas that may potentially be the cause or those that may lead to the manifestation of any kind of abuse.  Send comments to: runsford0505@gmail.com

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