Times Of Swaziland: LOVELESS FATHERS ARE INEFFECTIVE!

LOVELESS FATHERS ARE INEFFECTIVE!
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The Editor on 10/06/2020 01:06:00


Sir,
I now understand why some children end up committing suicide, why some leave
their homes to live in streets where they have only rainwater to drink. I now
know why some children end up engaging in prostitution, drug abuse, crime and
profanity.
Some of these children will not succeed in life because they believe that
bahlanekelwe madloti or they have been bewitched by neighbours.
But the truth is, it is their loveless fathers who don’t take their time to
teach them about life. What a shame! Children are not told the truth that
education is power and have resolved to cultivate dagga.
Abused
It hurts to see stories of abused women and children. It hurts to see dead
bodies of innocent women and children shelved in mortuaries just because of
domineering, loveless and abusive fathers. I then wonder where they get the
audacity to abuse their loved ones. It excruciatingly hurts when a father rapes
his own daughter.
Loveless fathers have devalued the gold of the country as they have made their
children a piece of paper where everyone leaves a mark. Our fathers should
preserve stability at homes. I’m fazed when I see an unemployed father who has
a lot of children and cannot afford to take care of them. In most instances you
discover that they are not prepared to find a job as they drink alcohol the
whole day.
Belong
A lot of people have been killed and murdered by the words said by their
fathers. Children belong to God and He uses parents to bring us to this earth.
But I’m taken aback when such fathers think that we are their properties.
They offer their children as sacrifices when they choose to follow earthly
riches instead of heavenly treasures. By so doing, do they realise that they are
breeding a dangerous generation?
To all loveless fathers who never spend time with their children, this is time
for change, this is time for exuding love; a love which does not need intimacy
or a bank card to prove it but which needs expressing feelings and inspiration
to loved ones.
All the fathers who denied their children nakubikwa sisu must apologise and
accept their children. The selfish fathers who broke their wives’ hearts and
went after stunning girls must go back to their wives and apologise to start new
relationships.
Respect
Dear fathers, make your children live and say the right things/words to your
children. Tell them the lucid truth about life and teach them respect. Never
utter negative words to us for they will affect us for the rest of our lives.
Meanwhile, let’s join hands as a nation and encourage loveless fathers to do
the right thing. We want to choose our role models from them as we want the next
generation to have integrity. We want to pass integrity to the next generation
not hatred, nor abuse or anger.
Benibatalelani ningeke nikhone kubanika lutsandvo? As a child, there comes a
time in life where you endeavour to love and respect your father only to be hurt
when you realise that your father hates you.
Good fathers are like fig trees; fig trees that bear good fruits. And remember
what Jesus did to the fruitless fig  tree in Matthew 21:19.
Hlongwane May Siyabonga
Mliba High