Times Of Swaziland: CHILD MARRIAGES DON’T HAPPEN IN VACUUM, WIDESPREAD

CHILD MARRIAGES DON’T HAPPEN IN VACUUM, WIDESPREAD
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Editor on 12/05/2023 08:15:00


Sir,
Despite the limited publicity about it, child marriage is not an isolated or
uncommon practice. It is in fact so widespread that it is commonplace in many
parts of the country. With child marriage, a girl’s childhood abruptly ends.
Her health and future are in jeopardy. Her right to live a life free from abuse
is violated.
We have heard, and witnessed marriages of school-going girls, or girls who were
young enough to still have been at school, but were not due to many reasons
including financial constraints. This is not good for the girl because girls in
marriages instead of in school are not able to learn skills that could help them
pull their families from poverty or provide them some measure of independence.
Their health is put in danger – girls under 15 years of age are five times
more likely to die in childbirth than women in their 20s, and those 15 to 19 are
twice as likely to die.
With virtually no power to reject unwanted sex, child brides are more likely to
contract HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases than unmarried, sexually
active girls the same age. Sexual violence and domestic enslavement are part and
parcel of life for child brides. This is about all the young girls who are
forced into early marriages, early parent-hood, early labourers for their
in-laws, and thus denied the right to education, the right to childhood and the
right to grow and develop themselves.
Promotes
The mentality that things should be swept under the rug, and let the family deal
with them, promotes nothing but continued silence on issues of gender-based
violence. When one person speaks out, a host of other people in a similar
situation get help, directly or indirectly. Women are socialised to believe that
their primary role in society is in relation to others – as a daughter, a
daughter in-law, a wife and a mother. These norms restrict women from having
aspirations beyond marriage.
This is why when they are forced into marriage when they are still minors, they
do not see anything wrong with it – instead they look at it as a blessing, as
something that elevates them from their peers. But in reality, the opposite is
painstakingly true. But for many, especially men, marriage is a means to satisfy
sexual desires or access the mobility and freedom reserved for adults; which
begs the question – what’s in it for the girl besides a growing sense of
uncertainty about ‘what tomorrow will bring’?
Back in the day society used to rely on the village to raise a child, but now
the village wants to either marry the child or sleep with the child. If the
village cannot sleep with the child, then cases of rape become the order of the
day. Who are we then supposed to run to? It is time village leaders and other
community members are encouraged to join these conversations and stand up
against these practices too. Because these practices do not happen in a vacuum,
they happen in communities, in front of villagers, the same villagers who are
supposed to be protecting their members.