Times Of Swaziland: IN LIFE YOU CAN NEVER PLEASE EVERYONE

IN LIFE YOU CAN NEVER PLEASE EVERYONE
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Editor on 29/02/2024 08:18:00


Sir,
Life is full of adventurous curves, mountains and valley experiences. Therefore,
all of us must learn the art of navigating around different forms of negative
human behaviours and personalities. Human being possesses both good and bad
qualities. Some people are easy to get along with, while others are difficult to
relate with. It’s imperative for one to know certain things about people in
order to survive and rise above human sabotage and conspiracy. Be careful of
deeply and compulsively selfish people and keep your boundaries clear such
people. They will always take and add nothing in return to your life.
Insensitive
Selfish people are usually rigid, intolerant and insensitive to other people’s
feelings. They usually have a false and fake personality rooted in hypocrisy and
disloyalty. People who are pretenders are usually also full of lies,
exaggerations and disloyalty. A pretender possesses the spirit of a killer. They
kill other people’s reputations, dreams and visions through betrayal, false
accusations and lies. Once in a while in life you will come across such people.
It is, therefore, important to be very careful about certain people, especially
those who possess characteristics of selfishness and pretentiousness. Life is
too short to play games with people who are not serious about meaningful
effective relationships. We must never allow people’s actions or words control
our lives. People have the right to talk or behave in whatever way they want to
but never give people the right to define you or control the joy levels in your
life. Anger and bitterness should never be allowed to grow deep roots in our
lives.
Navigate
How then does one navigate around negative human behaviour? We must cultivate a
loving, kind and tender-hearted lifestyle. Out of the heart of love, comes
forgiveness. We must learn to forgive people and move on. To forgive is to
decide to withdraw the charges against the other person even when you do not
feel like it. It is a decision, not a feeling. To forgive does not necessarily
mean that you’re obliged to keep those kinds of people in your inner circle of
friends. Forgiveness opens the door for healing to take place in your inner
life. Unforgiveness creates an atmosphere for bitterness and anger to continue
growing. Anger and bitterness are energy zappers and focus killers. Bitterness
causes confusion in one’s life. Confusion is defined as, “A mental state
characterised by a lack of clear and orderly thought and behaviour.”
Confusion
We must never allow other people’s actions or talking bring confusion in our
lives. Never move away from your God-ordained path of destiny because of how
people treat you or what they say about you. We must always stay focused on
things that matter and are important for progress. Navigating around negative or
toxic people requires focusing on your purpose, calling and destiny. All of us
are pregnant with a unique identity, personality, purpose, gifts and destiny. We
must, therefore, spend me-time and energy watering and cultivating the seed of
our destiny instead of focusing on the opinions of people about us. Know that in
life, you will never please everybody, no matter how much you try to compromise
and accommodate everybody. Always remain faithful to who you are, your purpose,
your calling, your gift and your destiny. Stay in the rhythm of champions.