Times Of Swaziland: MORE PEOPLE BECOMING BEASTS

MORE PEOPLE BECOMING BEASTS
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Editor on 03/12/2024 14:06:00


Sir,
As I observe the state of our world today, it is increasingly apparent that
citizens are becoming more inhumane, uncontrollable and dangerous. Each month
brings fresh reports of abuse, murder and unimaginable cruelty.
This prompts a crucial question: what drives people to commit such heinous acts?
We often hear of couples, once blissfully married, who turn against one another
in the most brutal of ways. Are these individuals inherently bad? Not
necessarily. Many people are loving, caring and responsible towards their
families.
Causes
When I learn that a man has killed his wife or girlfriend, I find myself
pondering the underlying causes of such a tragic choice before jumping to
conclusions. Some time back, I was shocked to learn of a God-fearing man who
took the lives of both himself and his beloved—someone he was meant to
protect.
As I dug deeper into his life, I discovered that he was humble, respectful, kind
and generous. This revelation tormented me, leaving me to wonder why he would
commit such an unthinkable act against someone he was supposed to care for. I
became convinced that, if given the chance, he would deeply regret his actions. 
This led me to contemplate what might be occurring behind closed doors, what
hidden turmoil exists in relationships that remains shielded from public view?
The stark reality is that not every individual who commits murder is inherently
capable of such violence. If a woman recognised that her partner had the
potential for such brutality, she would likely seek ways to avoid living with
him.
Danger
No woman would willingly place herself in danger by marrying a criminal,
murderer or liar. Women typically choose partners whom they believe will be good
husbands. If I were a pastor, I might suggest that there is a demonic influence
that takes hold when anger erupts within a human being. In today’s society,
many people struggle to manage their anger; instead, it often seizes control of
them.
This loss of self-control can lead even the most responsible citizens to commit
acts of violence. When anger flares, individuals can become unrecognisable,
losing their senses and acting in ways that defy logic. We all know that when we
are furious, we can do irrational things, even breaking cherished possessions
without intending to; simply as a manifestation of our overwhelming emotions.
While we cannot entirely eliminate feelings of anger, we can learn to control
them. It is imperative that we take steps to manage our reactions.
Clarity
The moment you feel your blood beginning to boil, resist the urge to listen to
the tumultuous thoughts that invade your mind. Engaging in conversation with
neutral, understanding individuals can be a powerful antidote to anger. These
conversations can provide clarity and help to calm tempestuous emotions. In
conclusion, we must cultivate a culture of emotional intelligence, where open
dialogue and support can prevent the dark outcomes of unchecked anger. By doing
so, we can begin to stem the tide of inhumanity and violence that threatens the
fabric of our society.
Philisiwe Mdluli