Times Of Swaziland: AVOID REGRETTABLE CHOICES THIS FESTIVE SEASON

AVOID REGRETTABLE CHOICES THIS FESTIVE SEASON
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Editor on 06/12/2024 08:38:00


Sir,
The festive season, a time traditionally reserved for merriment and cherished
memories with our loved ones, it is imperative to reflect on the duality of the
period.
While holidays offer an invaluable opportunity for respite and connection, they
can also be fraught with peril, sorrow and regrettable choices. The onus rests
upon each individual to navigate these moments with heightened responsibility
and acute awareness of their surroundings and actions, lest we find ourselves
ensnared in circumstances that might overshadow our enjoyment. The holiday
season serves as a well-deserved reward, a time to celebrate the culmination of
another year’s endeavours, while simultaneously laying the groundwork for new
beginnings.
Experiences
In Eswatini, many citizens embark on road trips, attend weddings, and partake in
festive gatherings, all of which can be delightful experiences. However, it is
crucial to ensure that in our pursuit of enjoyment, we do not lose sight of our
better selves. Indeed, we encounter a myriad of personalities during these
occasions, even among family and friends, which necessitates a vigilant approach
to ensure our safety and well-being. Statistics reveal a troubling
reality—during the month of July alone, approximately 101 cases of sexual
violence were reported, including heinous acts of rape and sexual assault.Such
incidents, often perpetrated by acquaintances or those within one’s social
circle, highlight a disturbing breach of trust. Victims frequently remain
silent, gripped by fear of retaliation or societal judgement, thus perpetuating
a cycle of violence and shame. It is imperative that we dismantle this silence;
as the saying goes, “A problem shared is a problem halved.”
Suffer
Those who suffer must be empowered to speak out, for their courage could indeed
inspire others to do the same. To the women who find themselves
disproportionately affected by these crimes, I implore you to come forth and
report any acts of aggression or violation. Your bravery may illuminate a path
for others who have endured similar tribulations. Remain vigilant of your
environment, and if your instincts urge caution, heed them. Seek solace in the
simple pleasures of life—read a book, indulge in a hobby, or simply rest.
Knowledge and skills are far more valuable than transient amusement. Conversely,
it is vital to recognise that women can also perpetrate violence. Anger,
particularly when unresolved in relationships, can lead to regrettable actions.
Rather than resorting to physical aggression, I encourage a measured response.
Take a moment to breathe, reflect, and engage in dialogue.
Reputation
Your reputation is a delicate construct, and one act of violence can irreparably
tarnish it. To the men, let us dismantle the archaic notion that a woman’s
attire invites unwanted advances. Real strength lies in self-control and
respect. Women are not mere objects to be possessed; they are multifaceted
beings deserving of dignity. As men, we must embody qualities of leadership and
integrity, safeguarding both our own reputations and those of others. As the
poet Khalil Gibran aptly stated: “Your children are not your children. They
are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself.” Just as we nurture
our offspring, we must also nurture a culture of respect and honour. In
conclusion, let us collectively strive to foster an environment of safety and
joy as we bid farewell to 2024. It is a clarion call for unity against sexual
violence, be it as perpetrators or victims.
Tebe