Times Of Swaziland: INTERNATIONAL MEN’S DAY AND 16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM

INTERNATIONAL MEN’S DAY AND 16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM
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Nomsa Mbuli on 29/11/2024 09:09:00


I think it is such a happy coincidence that the world celebrates International
Men’s Day just a week before the commencement of the 16 Days of Activism
Against Gender-Based Violence. I believe it is essential to reflect on the
significance of this occasion from a woman’s perspective.  The memories of
October’s Women’s Day are still fresh, yet International Men’s Day offers
an opportunity to foster understanding, empathy and dialogue between the
genders. Perhaps we can then create better activism against gender-based
violence (GBV) for the rest of the month and the beginning of December.
International Men’s Day, celebrated on November 19, aims to promote positive
male role models, raise awareness about men’s health issues and encourage
gender equality.
As a woman, I recognise the importance of this day not only in celebrating the
contributions of men, but also in acknowledging the challenges they face in
society. Throughout history, men have often been viewed through the lens of
strength and resilience. They are put under immense pressure to conform to
traditional roles of masculinity, providers, protectors and decision-makers.
While it is essential to celebrate the achievements and strengths of men, it is
equally vital to acknowledge the struggles they endure in silence.
Mental health issues among men are alarmingly prevalent, yet the stigma around
expressing vulnerability continues to hinder meaningful conversations. I
remember during a mental health awareness campaign, it was reported that in
Eswatini there are more women suffering from mental health issues than men, yet
there are more men who commit suicide than women. This is because women have
more resources at their disposal for dealing with their mental health issues,
but men are hindered by many factors, including culture, traditions and a lack
of funding for these platforms.
Issues
These are some of the issues that need to be tackled during the 16 Days of
Activism because they contribute greatly to the imbalance and toxicity between
the genders. In many ways, the societal expectations placed upon men often keep
them trapped in a box of emotional suppression. Acknowledging this reality is
not about downplaying women’s issues; rather, it is about fostering a culture
of inclusivity, where everyone feels empowered to share their thoughts and
feelings. As women, we undergo our trials and tribulations, yet it is through
understanding each other’s struggles that we can build a more harmonious
society. I was part of a discussion of men, by men, where they sat down to talk
through these issues.
Some of these revelations left me in awe, and I cannot help but wish we could
have more platforms for men to talk about their issues and receive the help they
need in order to foster healthier communities. International Men’s Day offers
us an opportunity to engage in discussions about toxic masculinity. This term
refers to societal norms that promote harmful behaviours in men, such as
aggression, emotional repression and derogatory attitudes towards women.
Encouraging men to express themselves authentically, without fear of ridicule,
is essential for nurturing healthier relationships across the gender spectrum.
Discussions
The 16 Days of Activism that follow afterwards will only complement the
discussions that would have already taken place. There are many men who advocate
for women’s rights, stand against violence and promote respectful
relationships. These men serve as role models, exemplifying how collaboration
between genders can propel societies toward greater equality and understanding.
In conclusion, International Men’s Day is an important occasion not just for
men but for everyone. As a woman, I celebrate the men in my life who inspire,
nurture and contribute positively to our communities. Let us use this day to
bridge the gaps between genders, challenge stereotypes and foster a culture of
empathy and inclusivity. By acknowledging and supporting each other, we can
create a brighter future where both men’s and women’s issues are recognised,
heard and addressed.