TOO MUCH FEMICIDE IN ESWATINI

Sir,

I am considerate of the kind gesture of such a platform to be allowed to be aloud. However, I write with a heavy heart due to the deafening silence of human rights organisations, who in the expense of their insouciance, continue to indirectly put the lives of our women counterparts on the edge. In my preoccupied life, I was rather obliged to stop and address the issue of ‘femicide’ across our beautiful motherland, Eswatini.

Abuse

As it seems, a war has been wedged against women - speaking on the gumption that, statistically, we are seating (that which I know) over 20 cases of spousal abuse in the month of April and May alone. It is an alarming fact for a country with a small population and was once a sought after, since it was an epitome of love and respect. I have set and in-between sobs read cases of spousal abuse, which in most cases end in murder, one is even tempted to question what really love is- does it have the ability to even go to the lengths to even kill, should push come to shove. Why are our fellow emaSwati butchering one another in the name of love? It has always been the reality that the nation was anchored on Christian values, nonetheless, it is surprising that we seem to be ignorant of the sub-virtues of love, which Christianity encourages.

Love being patient, kind, not envious, not arrogant, rude, irritable and resentful. The intriguing question then becomes, why it is that, contemporary love seems to produce quite the opposite of the Bible’s attributes of love, or maybe there has been a repetition of terms. The Bible always has emphasised on agape between lovers not Eros, which seems to be used of late. Where in the Bible for the women’s sake are partners commanded to kill one another? Kani konakale kuphi? Ngatsi kwamele sibuyele emasisweni. The nefarious scheme of spousal killing really is a bone of contention, because when paying attention to the insensitivity of the cases, the desperate need for intervention and a stern voice is much required. I cannot then propose without disposing a possible solution.

Resolution

It is worth mentioning that my resolutions are not binding, but liberal and subject to questioning. It is, nonetheless, shameful how the younger generation has spun a whole new  inexcusable idea of what love is. (Eros) The root cause of the growing cases of spousal killings, I have concluded, a condition called (PTSS) post-traumatic slave syndrome).  Many emaSwati are unfortunately ignorant of such, but only conversant to (PTSD) post traumatic stress disorder. The PTSS was proposed by an American, Joy DeGruy Leary. In his thesis, a book written in (2005) he relays that experience of slavery or abuse creates intergenerational psychological trauma, leading to instances where abuse is inherent to one’s generation.

Reason

He makes reference to the Atlantic slave trade which resulted in Negros in America. No wonder, it is for that reason, some people may even relate to this where in their past/ current relationships, a partner would say I like men who beat me, a partner would even leave if not abused and some partners would derive pleasure from beating their love partners we call them (sadist). These people don’t need prayer but help they are sick, but we are tempted to pray for them yet they don’t change. What this means for you as a bachelor who aspire to tie the knot is that, a careful and perhaps a prayerful consideration has to be made specifically on the person’s historical trace of relationships before you get too comfortable.  Do not bury your head in the sand, abuse is, as it seems hereditary, your partner might be a victim, thus they victimised, people just don’t go haywire, there is a cause. Be careful.

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