LEND US MEN AN EAR TOO

Sir,

This GBV scourge needs an informed approach not the inflammatory one. How many years the whistle has been blown in a one-sided has inflammatory way, without minding the causal problem that is in these men who do this heinous thing.  I have been observing this problem over the years without the promise of a solution. The approach is not bearing results so far. The approach of stacking up laws after laws has failed to be a deterrent every time there is a new offender, others are in prison already.

Solve

Therefore, how is it going to solve or even end this? Although, we’re in a country with less intellectual studies or research happening and you even doubt if there are any scholars of repute. Let me throw a good question to those who want to argue. How long and what does it take for a centuries-old behavioural built on societal characteristics to be turned around by imposing laws or any kind of an educational programme targeting a new generation? The present behaviour of men is generational and inherited from the old family structures and traits, worse; it is still happening in our unquestionable traditional settings, it’s there. The men are born out of that setting.

Aggrieved

The last one which I think men are aggrieved of is that it seems there are no rights for men in our society, but only for women. That is gender imbalance. The laws and the courts are tipped against the men like in the Apartheid era of the western people in South Africa. You knew that if you are arraigned to court you shall be sentenced, for your reasons shall never be investigated fairly. Just consider the one case of a woman stabbing the boyfriend and then saying he was demanding sex, why kill him? She knew that her alibi would sell, period. The media has lulled about that, no hullabaloo.

Frank

I suggest that we hold a frank indaba with the men only to discuss this matter, so we can head toward a corrective measure.  It should neither be organised by hypocritical organisations nor by anyone playing to the gallery. It has to be a straight talk discussion with no suppressive conduct.  If there’s a panel, it should not be any how, men will be talking. This one must have no women present. If agreed to, a follow-up indaba with women involved can come, but I would suggest that a report must be availed to them,  so they have a picture of the amadoda’s take.

Adam

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