BREAK CYCLE OF DEPENDENCY, VIOLENCE

Madam,

I am writing in response to the recent tragic events surrounding the violent deaths of young women in our community, particularly the latest heartbreaking cases of a young woman who was enticed with the promise of a job, allegedly by unidentified individuals, only to be hacked to death with a bush knife multiple times, on the neck and head. These incidents have sparked significant concern and discussion about gender-based violence (GBV) and the broader implications of gender dynamics in our society. It is imperative that we face these issues head-on and initiate a dialogue that promotes empowerment and understanding, rather than perpetuating cycles of dependency and violence.

Violence

The statistics surrounding gender-based violence in Eswatini are alarming. With reports indicating a surge in cases, we are compelled to confront the uncomfortable truths that lie at the heart of these tragedies. The recent deaths of two women, both victims of their partners’ rage, highlight a critical need for societal change. As a community, we must advocate for the empowerment of women; teaching them to stand strong and independent, rather than relying on men for validation or security. One of the pressing issues we must address is the societal perception of women as property. Too often, relationships are framed within the confines of ownership, where a woman’s worth is tied to her partner's investment—emotionally, financially, or otherwise.

This mindset is detrimental to both genders and contributes to toxic dynamics that can lead to violence. We must challenge these traditional norms by promoting the idea that partnerships should be based on mutual respect and autonomy. Financial independence is a crucial aspect of this empowerment. Women must be encouraged to pursue their careers and manage their finances independently. When women view themselves as equal partners, rather than investments, it can mitigate the sense of ownership that some men may feel. Moreover, financial literacy programmes should be expanded to ensure that both men and women understand the importance of financial independence, fostering healthier relationships built on equality rather than dependency. However, it is vital to recognise that abuse does not only occur against women.

While organisations like Eswatini Action Group Against Abuse (SWAGAA) play an essential role in raising awareness about women's rights and support systems, we must also acknowledge that men can be victims of emotional and psychological abuse. Creating an inclusive dialogue that addresses the experiences of all individuals is crucial for fostering understanding and combating all forms of violence.

Furthermore, we must emphasise the importance of open communication in relationships. Many young people enter partnerships without a clear understanding of healthy boundaries and mutual respect. It is crucial to educate individuals about the dynamics of healthy relationships and the signs of potential abuse regardless of gender. This education should begin at a young age, instilling values of respect and consent that will inform their interactions as they grow.

Incidents

The recent incidents have left our community shaken, but they also serve as a poignant reminder of the urgent need for change. We must advocate for proactive measures from our government and local organisations to address these issues. Community programmes aimed at educating individuals about healthy relationships, financial independence, and the importance of mutual respect can play a significant role in preventing future tragedies. In conclusion, the loss of our women should not be in vain.

Let their stories serve as a catalyst for change within our community. By empowering young women to stand for themselves, challenging societal norms around ownership in relationships, and advocating for financial independence, we can work toward a future where violence is no longer an acceptable outcome of personal relationships. It is time for us to confront the uncomfortable truths, engage in open dialogue, and foster a culture of respect and understanding. Together, we can create a safer environment for everyone.

M. Dlamini

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