RELATIONSHIPS WITH A MODERN TWIST

As human beings, we are innately designed with and naturally have a need for emotional attachments with others. This is evident and is often seen in the attempts that we make to establish these ‘attachments’ and the amount of energy and various resources we invest when we do find them, call it a relationship and seek to pursue it further.

Changes in the social landscape overtime as well as generational advancements have, of course, altered the societal definition of what relationships ‘should be like’ and the so-called dating scene nowadays is a far-cry from what your mother or father were familiar with in their ‘hey-days’. Even though I cannot be thoroughly, exact in, what their thoughts of what we call “relationships” now may be, I am, however, certain that they would agree it has evolved into a far more complicated process than it used to be.

These complications are brought out by a number of things - the new age of social media taking over, the gradual shift in perceptions of relationships over time, among others - and as a result of some or most of these factors, the process of forming a lasting relationship with the partner of your choice has become more a psychological challenge than ever before.

Expected

The concept of relationships has been shrouded in misconceptions about each partners’ expectations, confusion in the different roles we are expected to play as a part of an existing relationship; for some people, the process of ‘learning’ someones’ personality and nature very tedious. For others, the idea of a having an intimate emotional with someone may be suppressed by traumatising experiences of relationships from their past. Taken into context, the validity of some of these cannot be doubted, however, that should not pose a permanent hindrance to your pursuit of the ‘right one’.

The psychological nature of being emotionally involved with someone is a significant part (of it all) but one that I feel many involved people (including those hoping to get involved) lose sight of or do not consider at all. The coming together of two people for the purposes of sharing their love for each other stretches beyond the physical, it calls for the readiness to take time and contribute emotional and mental effort toward understanding your partner. Since we are all aware that our personalities are in no way similar, there is no greater platform where this is highlighted more than in a relationship context.

Trauma

Differences in personality come with fragments of childhood trauma, unhealthy coping mechanisms and sometimes a lack of emotional intelligence; all of which are brought to the table either one or both partners. Not to say there is not anything psychologically pleasant from a relationship, however, the key to a healthy relationship between two is held in how much dedication and awareness both show to communicating, acknowledging and comprehending these differences.

The reason why many of our relationships do not posses the necessary longevity is rooted in the lack of abstract contribution to the cause. There is a large degree of patience required, there are levels of commitment that should be reached towards the cause as well besides the genuine love and care for the other partys’ physical and mental well-being. All of these work in tandum to create the right environment for the growth and development of a love relationship and as you start the year, may you find yourself someone willing to share and begin an emotional journey with you.
Send comments to runsford0505@gmail.com.

Post your comment

Your name:

Your e-mail address:

Add your comments:

Please enter the code you see in the image:

Image:

Code: