THE SIGNIFICANCE OF MENTAL HEALTH IN RELATIONSHIPS

RELATIONSHIPS of the emotional kind are as old as time itself and are (and probably will always be) a cornerstone of the continued existence of mankind. Even today, relationships are still as prevalent and socially significant as ever, needless to say, however, advancements in time and other modern innovations mean they (relationships) have become ever more slightly complicated than they were rewind 20 or 30 years ago.
Shifts in motives and motivations for engaging in relationships nowadays have themselves shifted perhaps. The meaning and need for a relationship is slowly becoming substituted for career pursuits for instance, or quite simply, individuals have become fearful of how emotionally toxic their ‘dating pool’ has become, for instance. Regardless, a healthy number of people still hold a firm belief in the existence of ‘true love’ and are still willing participants in pursuing this end. As we would all probably agree, ‘thee perfect’ relationship is fiction and in real life, it is about two people who join emotional forces for the purposes of nurturing, comforting, reassuring and maintaining a warm psychoemotional climate and sharing their love.

Without a doubt, there are numerous variations of this, however, we all agree there are universal features that should at least be present for it to be considered fit for purpose. Psychologically, relationships are supposed to boost you and your partners’ self-esteem, give you (and your partner) non-judgemental ground for both to share anything, while also granting you the security of knowing you have someone you can share those good news with, before anyone else, for instance.

Unforgiving

It does, however, present as unfortunate how unforgiving the relationship scene has been over the last couple of decades, on account of the steady emergence of crimes and violence coming out of relationships nowadays. Even besides that, the rawness in disregard for another’s feelings has become too obvious considering some of the things that people do to their partners, particularly emotionally. It really does make one reconsider their willingness of finding a partner and actually trying to form an emotional partnership. Inasmuch as we consider being in a relationship an emotional investment, the fact that it is more a psychological investment is one that is often shelved.

Most times, our physical infatuation with our (potential) partner can often be misleading in that it potentially clouds your judgement of the kind of person they really are. Therefore, it makes it that more difficult to spot emotional toxicity and psychological ‘danger’ you may be at risk of. This is why many people find themselves staying longer in relationships they really should not be and exposing themselves to mental ill-health, all in the name of ‘love’. Of course, they may have their reasons for that - financial dependence, they may have ‘nowhere else to go’ or general fear of being alone. However, it is still very saddening to witness how some individuals would opt to throw their own mental health in the ‘fire’.

Conscious

It is important for one to always be fully conscious of their mental and psychological state when in relationships, in order to be able to recognise the detrimental bits and pieces whenever they start to show out. Feeling unappreciated, under-loved and belittled are some of the common negative traits that many people in relationships complain about and all can be equally as damaging to either partner. While the main aim is share feelings and recognise emotions, it is equivalently as significant to have a way or methods of communicating those feelings whether good or bad. As difficult as it is to achieve, a smoothly functioning communication channel in a relationship ‘works like a charm’ and it is only from this base that smoothly-functioning can emerge. Send comments to runsford0505@gmail.com

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