INTERNATIONAL MEN’S DAY AND 16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM

I think it is such a happy coincidence that the world celebrates International Men’s Day just a week before the commencement of the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence. I believe it is essential to reflect on the significance of this occasion from a woman’s perspective.  The memories of October’s Women’s Day are still fresh, yet International Men’s Day offers an opportunity to foster understanding, empathy and dialogue between the genders. Perhaps we can then create better activism against gender-based violence (GBV) for the rest of the month and the beginning of December. International Men’s Day, celebrated on November 19, aims to promote positive male role models, raise awareness about men’s health issues and encourage gender equality.

As a woman, I recognise the importance of this day not only in celebrating the contributions of men, but also in acknowledging the challenges they face in society. Throughout history, men have often been viewed through the lens of strength and resilience. They are put under immense pressure to conform to traditional roles of masculinity, providers, protectors and decision-makers. While it is essential to celebrate the achievements and strengths of men, it is equally vital to acknowledge the struggles they endure in silence.

Mental health issues among men are alarmingly prevalent, yet the stigma around expressing vulnerability continues to hinder meaningful conversations. I remember during a mental health awareness campaign, it was reported that in Eswatini there are more women suffering from mental health issues than men, yet there are more men who commit suicide than women. This is because women have more resources at their disposal for dealing with their mental health issues, but men are hindered by many factors, including culture, traditions and a lack of funding for these platforms.

Issues

These are some of the issues that need to be tackled during the 16 Days of Activism because they contribute greatly to the imbalance and toxicity between the genders. In many ways, the societal expectations placed upon men often keep them trapped in a box of emotional suppression. Acknowledging this reality is not about downplaying women’s issues; rather, it is about fostering a culture of inclusivity, where everyone feels empowered to share their thoughts and feelings. As women, we undergo our trials and tribulations, yet it is through understanding each other’s struggles that we can build a more harmonious society. I was part of a discussion of men, by men, where they sat down to talk through these issues.

Some of these revelations left me in awe, and I cannot help but wish we could have more platforms for men to talk about their issues and receive the help they need in order to foster healthier communities. International Men’s Day offers us an opportunity to engage in discussions about toxic masculinity. This term refers to societal norms that promote harmful behaviours in men, such as aggression, emotional repression and derogatory attitudes towards women. Encouraging men to express themselves authentically, without fear of ridicule, is essential for nurturing healthier relationships across the gender spectrum.

Discussions

The 16 Days of Activism that follow afterwards will only complement the discussions that would have already taken place. There are many men who advocate for women’s rights, stand against violence and promote respectful relationships. These men serve as role models, exemplifying how collaboration between genders can propel societies toward greater equality and understanding. In conclusion, International Men’s Day is an important occasion not just for men but for everyone. As a woman, I celebrate the men in my life who inspire, nurture and contribute positively to our communities. Let us use this day to bridge the gaps between genders, challenge stereotypes and foster a culture of empathy and inclusivity. By acknowledging and supporting each other, we can create a brighter future where both men’s and women’s issues are recognised, heard and addressed.

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